I'd really like to see this R-J.
Great. I would like to see it.
OK, so I turned the house upside down and found the little bastard for you guys. Here it is:
9VDC wall wart powered, puts out about 12V. Proper EI transformer for isolation. Small ABS/Plastic box
Prewired extension cord, only cost a few dollars- cheaper than buying plugs and sockets.
Added a turn on/start button. Otherwise catch 22- you need an audio signal to turn on the system... Can add an instant-off too, if you want.
Chassis mount RCA sockets. Strictly only one is needed, the load is insignificant, but I balanced it anyway. The signal simply comes from an unused tape-out or even a video signal will trigger it. A few mV is all that is needed. At one point- I used it to turn on the whole AV system when the VCR (that's how old it is) powered up and sent out a video signal.
Power cable straight in, zipped tied on other side to prevent pulling out. No room for exotic cable clamps in this tiny box.
RCAs, ready to go
The inside story. Omron/Fujitsu 10A 250vAC 12v coil relay, switching
both active and neutral. Live part of PCB and tracks isolated, insulated with elephant-hide or similar on track side.
Three TO92 transistors, scavenged resistors from an old radio (I remember doing that) and yes, even back then, nice little Nichicons. Shielded cable to the RCAs is probably unecessary.
Running production change
(the old days of hand taped PCB prototypes)
A closeup from above