I'd add: Get a microphone (not necesary an expensive one) and get familiarized with ARTA software.
After succesfully tweaked several crossovers, I've found that without measurements, it's a waste of time and effort.
The "book" crossovers usually don't work as you expect, I don't know why, but crossover slopes never look like the graphs when you measure with a mic.
I've recently made a custom crossover for a customer, I've ended with a 2nd order xover for the tweeter (measured impedance: 7 ohm), using a 1uF capacitor, what in a "calculator" means more than 10KHz crossover point, but they sound awesome in this configuration, with a woofer crossed at near 2.5KHz. The "measured" tweeter crossover point looks close to 2.5KHz in a graph.
So my advice is: start with a mic, and doing measurements you'll be able to see the effect of the components in your crossover, and match the output if you need to attenuate the tweeter.